Guilty of Being in Love

I was just wondering what is the right age when a person can be said to be mature enough to be in love. Parents would probably say that at sixteen people are too early to fall in love.. And when i see three-four years old already having boyfriends and girlfriends i feel its too early for them to fall in love. Then how do you decide at what age you can be in love. Isn't the ability to feel love inherent in us. Then why should there be an age when you can fall in love...

Another thought regarding love. Why is love hailed in movies and tabooed in reality? In movies we cry over a couple which is separated by the harsh world. But in reality when we encounter a couple we find turn our nose at PDA. Why does the social morality require you to be "settled" before you can be in love. Love is not a logical exercise in which you decide that this is the right time to find you partner and then go and look for one. Love is about feelings. Have we in the course of stressing upon the importance of relationship forgotten that the essence of relationship is love? Moreover how does your being in love make you value marriage less. Doesn't it make you value relationship more as you are ready to commit yourself no matter what happens?

Another thought. Why does marriage make everything "right"? If you are in love then you are frowned upon but as soon as you have a mangalsutra around your neck everything is sacred. One wonders whether the ethos of society are based on either logic or feelings or nothing. Or maybe they are based on dominance and need to constrict within certain rules. Maybe they are just based on making everyone fit a mould. Then the societal structures are built on fear.

Lets not forget feelings is the essence of our lives and not custom, tradition or honour. These three being just categories which have been used to serve the interests of those who get to define them.